You ever been so in love with the D*%$ that it made you oblivious to the bullshit that the man was feeding you? You were soooo caught up, that you found yourself defending his actions to your girlfriends? I mean this man was the epitome of sexy to you. He smiled and flashed his perfect white teeth, showing his dimples and those sexy ass lips and you instantly got moist. You could never stay mad at him because he always knew what to say to get you to smile. And once he got you in the bedroom, driver’s seat of his baby mama’s car, park bench, lounge bathroom or wherever he laid you down…you knew that whatever he did to disappoint you would slowly be erased because he was going to make it his mission to make you forget…but only in that moment. Outside of sex, he had no interest in smoothing over an argument or apologizing for standing you up. He was only in it for the sex. He made no effort to meet your friends or family and he sure as hell didn’t introduce you to anyone besides his weed man and the dude that let yall smash in his bedroom that one time.
But despite all of this you don’t see it. He calls you everyday. He makes an attempt to see you at least once a month. He takes you out to eat before you go to the telly. He calls and unloads all of his baggage and baby mama drama on you. You’re the one he calls when he needs a favor done, like charging something on your credit card. You’re dickmatized and you don’t even know it. Your friends are telling you to cut your losses and walk away, but you can’t. You won’t even allow yourself to date or let anyone else close enough to get to know you because you’re in love with his potential. You see what he could be and you’re secretly waiting for the day that he says he wants to be with you. You want him to say that he is ready to be what you need him to be. Sad thing is you have a better chance of getting struck by lightening.
No matter what a man has going on, if he wants to be with you he will be with you. If he truly cares for you, he will do everything in his power to keep you. If he tells you to wait and you find yourself in the same position 2 years later, gurlllll please move on. I’m not saying that he doesn’t care, I’m sure he does. Just not in the way that you want him to. At some point you have to realize that he doesn’t want to be with you and as long as you keep offering sex, he is going to take it. Nothing and I mean nothing keeps a man that doesn’t want to be kept. Trust me, I know.
Nata Grand 
OMG preach! One of the best advice that I have ever gotten from a friend(you) is that when a man says he need time give it to him and what he shows you is what he really feels.